The lessons I learned letting my son break the rules hold true for security, too. Here's why sometimes breaking a rule leads to better compliance: 1. It creates an opportunity for an individual to practice autonomy, on the condition that they live with the consequences. This allows an individual to be recognized, and feel respected.

2.The experience created a unique, shared context to discuss the reason for the rule. Generally this leads to a better understanding of the rule; sometimes, it actually creates a better understanding of why the rule needs to change.

3. It creates a better bond between people; individuals get closer to the consequences of their actions, and everyone improves their relationship.

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